Blessing: NLP

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Chapter One

DEFINITION: WHAT IS NLP AND WHAT IS IT FOR?

What is NLP?

Your behavior is based on a certain structure. NLP examines this structure of the way you think, act and speak with the use of specific models. The models were initially patterned by Richard Bandler from inspirational characters such as Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir and Fritz Perlz, who were highly regarded because of their behavioral and linguistic prowess.

Your personal experiences are the primary applications of the system. You cannot easily learn it with the use of sequential steps and techniques; but programmers are keener in incorporating the methods to redefine how your brain functions and perceives. The system aims to build a solid foundation of attitudes and skills, so that these will independently produce new techniques and approaches for your self-preservation. You will not only rely on steps and techniques that were directly taught to you; you will also learn how to adapt and form new ones to continually achieve success.

NLP is a multi-faceted process that involves the psychological effects on behavior. It is an epistemology which uses different stages in human development and thought and attitude formation. It provides efficient tools and strategies that define your role as a human being, your identity, and your ideal state of success.

Although the initial state begins within you, the process gradually involves your environment and the people around you to create aspirations and the right mindset that leads to attaining them.

What is NLP For?

NLP is a toolbox of attitudes, thoughts and skills. Its models become patterns by which your original negative habits will be redefined and changed. You are basically aiming for personal development and success if you’re thinking of using NLP. Here are some ideas of what NLP is for.

1. NLP gives you success. Whether you are having problems in your family,

work or leisure, NLP enables you to change your outlook and vision toward

the world as a whole. You will be able to see the deeper meaning and

priorities in your life. Once you realize your strong and weak areas, you can

then concentrate on the things that can make you a more efficient family

member, worker and person, thus producing success in the long run.

2. NLP improves communication. You can convert your positive way of

thinking into words. When you redefine your thoughts and emotions and

effectively communicate and share your perspective with others, then you

become more competent verbally. Communication is a powerful means of

providing you with a vast network of people, stronger influence, and a more

dynamic way of expressing yourself.

3. NLP unifies your mind, body and feelings. You may be having a lot of

trouble putting your plans into action, or learning from your experience. This

only means that your mind, body and feelings are not in sync. NLP allows

you to create a connection so that all aspects of your existence as a human

being coincide and work together towards achieving personal success

Chapter Two

HISTORY OF NLP AND ITS PRESUPPOSITIONS

NLP was co-founded and developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder

in the 1970’s. Gregory Bateson supervised the development of the system at the

University of California, Santa Cruz. Alfred Korzybski had great influence on

Bateson, Bandler and Grinder because of his theories on human modeling and

presuppositions. Leslie Cameron-Bandler, Judith DeLozier, Robert Dilts and David

Gordon also contributed later on.

Grinder and Bandler contributed much in the early stages of NLP, but the

two co-founders fell out by the 1980’s. Grinder and DeLozier developed the New

Code of NLP, which consisted of a mind-body approach. Bandler focused on

submodalities and Ericksonian hypnosis. Michael Hall focused on mental states

and neuro-semantics. Tad James made people visualize certain periods in their

life for more effective therapy. Anthony Robbins contributed to the popularity of

NLP with his products which used NLP extensively. At this point, NLP was

managed and developed in several independent sectors, renamed and then

multiplied. There was a lack of definition and regulation, which did not help its

reputation.

After a series of legal battles, NLP legally became a generic term. Today,

there is still no general agreement among practitioners about the theory of NLP,

which has left it open to abuse by some. However, most of the works are still based

on the ideas of the co-founders and other respected individuals. Today,

certification is required to formally practice NLP for human conditioning and

development. The system has been widely recognized in adjunct to therapy with

satisfactory results.

NLP Presuppositions

Two fundamental presuppositions serve as the foundation of NLP. All

models, techniques and strategies associated with the system are used together

with these assumptions. Since NLP is the study of subjective experience, one

assumption is that human beings are unable to identify objective reality. There is

no such thing as a perfect or right direction in leading your life, which is why you

only aim for the best possible situation, hoping to make the right choice with the

right attitude. Your goal in using NLP is to acquire excellence and wisdom. By

widening your options, you increase your chances of gaining excellence; and by

acquiring different views of your environment, you become wiser.

1. The map is not the territory. Reality can not be lived with a single direct

route. As a human being, you are offered different options as to how you

want to live your life. Depending on your experiences and perceptions, you

make choices, which lead you from one path to another. You have your own

map of reality, involving your representation of yourself and the world

around you. It is through this map that you react to the world around you and

know yourself better. But when there are too many discrepancies between

your personal map and the actual reality of the territory, you are likely to get

lost.

2. Life and mind are systemic processes. There is always an interaction

between you and another human being or between you and the

environment. Everything in the universe is interrelated, from the simplest

part to the most complex systems. When a part of your mind or life is

affected, the entire unit will also absorb the effects as a whole. This

connection occurs to maintain constant balance.

Other NLP Presuppositions

1. The meaning of the communication is the response it elicits. The

manner and content of reply you receive from the person you are

communicating with is what the entire communication meant. You may try

to relay a certain message but validation of understanding will only be done

once the receiver or the person you’re communicating with has replied

appropriately. For example, if you’re telling a joke but the other person did

not laugh as you expected, then maybe the thought or your manner of

telling was not entirely conducive to your desired communication. It may not

have been perceived on a funny level.

2. There are two communication levels: Conscious and Unconscious.

Most forms of communication done by human beings are not only verbal.

You may not even notice it but you use a lot of hand and eye movements,

facial expressions, posturing, non-verbal cues and body language along

with verbal communication. You can add to the tone and mood behind the

verbal message you’re implying to effectively relay it. For example you can

say, “Get out of here.” with two entirely different gestures which could imply

two very different meanings.

3. There are no failures in communication, but only outcomes. If you did

not receive the response that you were expecting after communicating with

another person, the communication process was not useless or a failure. It

only means that the outcome was different from what you intended it to be.

This should only encourage you to improve your skills and attitude about

communication. Learn from undesirable past outcomes so that you will be

able to gauge and identify the factors that prevented the right message from

being delivered.

4. Rapport is relating to individuals according to their model of the

world. Since all people create their own model or representation of the

world depending on their understanding of past experiences and the

influence of others and the environment, it requires some effort to step into

another’s model. It means that you have to view the world the same way

they do so that you can effectively build rapport and communicate. If you

choose to remain close-minded about other people’s representation, it may

be difficult for you to elicit a desired response since the other person also

has trouble understanding your own model.

5. Resistance reveals the inflexibility of the communicator. If you

experience resistance on the part of the person you are talking to, it doesn’t

necessarily mean that the person is not open to communication. It may be

that you are not establishing rapport effectively. You need to enter their

realm and model of the world first, or else they will unconsciously refuse to

receive your messages. You have to learn how to be flexible in order to

understand and speak their language since they cannot readily understand

yours. If you are inflexible then you risk sounding insulting by asking them to

change.

6. People have all the resources they need to change. You do not need to

acquire new things in order to make you a good communicator, leader or to

make changes in your life. You already have all the behavioral, mental and

emotional resources inside of you. If you do not recognize this, it only

means that you have not yet accessed them properly or realized your true

strengths. There are chronic stressors that have been preventing you from

using them. NLP practitioners help you become aware of your resources

and learn how to use them.

7. A person’s positive worth is constant even when the value of internal

and external behavior is questioned. Universally, each and every human

being has worth and dignity regardless of their thoughts and actions.

However, there are good and bad behaviors which may determine the

person’s judgment of his worth to himself and his environment. This means

that your value as a person remains unchanged no matter how bad your

behavior is. People will measure the value of your actions and behavior

according to their expectations. It is possible to change bad actions and

manners of thinking to be more aligned with one's deeper personal value.

8. All behavior has a positive intention. All behavior is intended for positive

outcomes but not every behavior is designed to be carried out in a positive

manner. There are several self-preserving mechanisms that aim for

personal benefit but the process of achieving that goal is very dangerous for

you and other people. Some of these behaviors are unconscious and

sometimes your mind and body only think about the positive outcome

regardless of the negative means. For example, euthanasia is intended to

relieve patients of their misery. The intention is positive but the behavior and

method are still life-ending.

9. Good decision-making requires accurate information. Do not

immediately rush into action or make a decision before you have acquired

full knowledge. You also have to give yourself enough time to calm your

excitement since haste and disrupted emotions result in poor judgment and

inadequacy of action. You have to distinguish what is conscious from

automated responses and also differentiate your ideals from what is

actually happening in your life. Make reality checks frequently so that you

can effectively increase your choices and make good decisions.

Chapter Three

NLP IN THERAPY

You will be amazed by the positive effects of NLP in therapy. Besides using

the traditional methods of treatment through medicine and physical interventions, a

radical emotional and psychological approach is intended to help achieve an

overall effect on your recovery. You will be able to effectively assess your specific

needs, goals, strengths and weaknesses, which, in turn, will cause a dramatic

change in your routines, lifestyle and participation in treatment.

1. Stress management. Stress can trigger a disease or adverse reaction. It

can also be the effect of an existing condition. NLP effectively relieves your

feelings of uncertainty and depression, which can positively affect your

present condition. By realizing your strengths and fostering a positive

perspective on life, you can eliminate stress entirely and change for the

better.

2. Relational benefits. Some of your conditions are only after-effects of

strains in your relationships with other people. NLP helps you deal with your

social problems by improving your communication skills, as well as boosting

your self confidence. With family and social support, therapy will be much

easier and faster.

3. Maximum performance. Since NLP aims for personal development and

excellence, you will be able to live your life to its fullest potential. It does not

necessarily mean that you will be great at everything that you do, but at

least you will be able to accept yourself and enjoy the things around you.

Your performance will improve, especially when undergoing therapy or

treatment. This will ensure faster recovery and a more positive attitude

toward wellness.

4. Overcoming fears. Your fears can be very detrimental to your personal

growth. Several approaches are present in NLP that allow you to overcome

the things which have prevented you from living a richer life. A positive

outlook in life and good self-esteem will enable you to take advantage of

situations that used to hinder you from achieving success.

5. Time management. When you begin aiming for success, you will also learn

how to spend your time wisely to achieve your goals. Time is a very

important factor to consider, especially when you know that you only have a

limited number of years to realize your potential. You will be able to

appreciate the time you have more in the process.

6. Lifestyle changes. Fostering a positive view of life will encourage you to

start living a healthier lifestyle. NLP will help you take care of your physical

body to be able to endure the struggles of daily living. Sleep, eat and

exercise properly. You enhance your mood when you see a healthier you in

the mirror.

7. Personal appreciation. Nobody is perfect; but it doesn’t mean that you

should stop aiming to be the best. NLP will help you develop skills, attitudes

and behaviors which will improve the way you see and think about yourself.

The system will help you keep in touch with your emotions and thoughts

more, as well as improve the way you relate with other people and your

environment.

Chapter Four

NLP ANALYTICAL MODELS

Strategies

Everything that you do or plan to do falls into one of five key strategies.

According to NLP theory, all aspects of the world around you use one or a blend of

these strategies, like making friends, legal negotiations and world peace. (Older

versions of NLP speak of three fundamental strategies, but the two additional

strategies are derived from the ideas of the initial three.)

1. Memory. You have your own way of inputting and accessing experience as

to what it means to you. Your mind will store data from your own personal

experiences. Later on, you will then retrieve the information from that

memory and try to distinguish whether it is a good, neutral or bad one. This

is how you learn from mistakes or cherish past successes. You are

constantly retrieving the information you have stored to be used in

decision-making, critical thinking and to find new approaches to a new

situation.

2. Belief. You compare your real experiences with your interpretation of them.

By looking at the things that actually happened in your life and aspiring to

the ideals which you have set for yourself, you begin to convince yourself

that you can achieve a higher state. It is also called convincer strategy,

since your belief will then lead you to try to be more successful than you are

in your present reality.

3. Decision. Basing on the second criteria of belief, you start to make options

for yourself as to how you want to achieve your goals in life. You assess and

evaluate your past condition, your present situation and your future, then

identify the choices that led you to become a better human being. These

choices will most likely be your guide in the other decisions you have to

make to reach your ideal future. This strategy is often used in accordance

with the TOTE (Test-Operation-Test-Exit). The TOTE is the general model

of a strategy.

4. Motivation. This strategy is a collaboration of the first three. You access

your memory to provide a baseline scenario of reality. Your imagination or

belief is then incorporated to set a comparison as to how greater things can

be achieved. You then create decisions to help you reach these greater

things. When these three combine, you will feel a powerful drive to achieve

your goals. This is called motivation. Motivation differs with each individual,

depending on their own personal experience and belief.

5. Learning. This strategy incorporates memory, decision and motivation for

you to learn faster and more efficiently. You access your memory to provide

you with necessary information relevant to the task at hand. The decisions

you made in the past will determine how much success or failure you had, in

the sense that you will have learned to make wiser ones for the future.

Motivation allows you to avoid making the same mistake again, thus, paving

the way to learning. You will be more inclined to gain information based on

what you know, what you have done, and what you plan to do.

Submodalities

Your five basic senses: visual or seeing, auditory or hearing, olfactory or

smell, gustatory or taste and kinesthetic or touch are known as modalities in NLP.

Modalities or representational systems are processed by your brain into your own

perspective of the world. These representations can be then broken down further

into subjective subdivisions called submodalities.

Visual Auditory Olfactory

Black, White or Color

Near or Far

Bright or Dim

Location

Size

Associated / Dissociated

Contrast

Framed or Unbounded

Moving or Still

Slow/Normal/Fast

3-Dimensional or Flat

Loud or Soft

Near or Far

Internal or External

Location

Stereo or Mono

Fast or Slow

High or Low Pitch

Verbal or Tonal

Rhythm

Clarity

Pauses

Strong or Weak

Sweet or Pungent

Rich or Thin

Location

Concentrated or Diluted

Constant or Intermittent

Clear or Unclear

Near or Far

Moving or Still

Source: Metal, Liquid, Etc.

Old or New

Gustatory Kinesthetic

Strong or Weak

Concentrated or Diluted

Rich or Thin

Fresh or Spoiled

Sweet, Sour, Salty, Spicy or Bitter

Tangy or Clear

Soft or Sharp

Fermented or Unfermented

Alcoholic or Non-alcoholic

Mild or Strong

Natural or Processed

Strong or Weak

Large or Small Area

Heavy or Light

Location

Smooth or Rough

Constant or Intermittent

Hot or Cold

Size

Shape

Pressure

Vibration

Submodalities are very helpful in NLP since they guide you in appreciating

the things that you already have. Since NLP recognizes that you have everything

you need to become successful, the use of submodalities lets you realize your very

own potential. You will set a mental image that allows you to distinctly see your true

self and how you wish to live your life in the years to come. The submodalities will

differentiate positive and negative thoughts. Your experiences are your own and

no one else in the world will go through them or learn from them the same way as

you do. This is the use of submodalities in the sense that you can distinctly create

your own mental imagery of reality and your personal experiences. Each person’s

brain and level of emotions are unique.

For example, you can easily regard your experiences as good or bad.

Memories can be labeled as unimportant or life-changing. All these are basically

submodalities in their function of changing your perspective as a person. There are

these so-called critical submodalities which aim to develop you as an individual.

These are the ones that affect you in the long term and on a larger scale. You can

think of a past experience then transform it into something better and worthwhile.

Add all the descriptions and submodalities that you can to make it more ideal than

how it really occurred. This changes your overall view and transforms your

personality.

There are techniques that incorporate the use of mental imagery to help you

provide submodalities to subjective experiences. It doesn’t necessarily mean that

you deviate from reality but you simply create a whole new perspective on a

formerly unpleasant circumstance and change your attitude into a more conducive

one for learning and success.

Anchoring

Anchoring is a process that connects or anchors memory or other factors to

a stimulus. The anchor or stimulus becomes the trigger to the anchored reaction.

The anchor may not have any logical relation to the reaction that it is causing and

the reaction may be adverse or beneficial. However, by using anchors, you can

stimulate certain reactions in order to change your overall attitude and behavior

toward a certain condition.

The stimuli of touch, sight, sound, smell and taste are used in NLP to induce

a desired state. This state is an experience or memory that you wish to access in

order to create a representation that can transform your outlook into a more

positive one. When the stimulus is activated, it evokes a state of mind containing

specific thoughts and emotions. For example, hearing an old song may bring you

back to your childhood or seeing an old house may remind you of how things were

in your old neighborhood.

In NLP, anchoring becomes an effective tool, since you can associate the

triggers with the state you wish to achieve. You can establish an anchor by

creating a stimulus while simultaneously evoking the state you wish to achieve. For

example, when a special person asks you to remember her then gives you a locket,

then the locket becomes the trigger and the memory of the person becomes the

resourceful state. The two are then so closely associated that whenever you look

at the anchor (the locket,) you become reminded of the resourceful state or person

who gave it to you.

Anchors can be visual, auditory or kinesthetic. These three modalities will

be your tools in creating an image that can easily retrieve information from your

memory to facilitate a response. It is useful to establish anchors, especially during

moments of significant experiences, to improve your subjective and critical view of

your environment.

1. Visual. Visual anchors can be external or internal. An external anchor

makes use of what is really there to see while an internal one makes use of

your imagination. A necklace which you can carry around all the time is an

example of an external anchor. A mental image of your old home would be

an internal anchor. Visual anchors can be anything that you can see such

as shapes, objects, places, and people. This is why objects can possess

sentimental value.

2. Auditory. This anchor can also be internal or external. What you can

actually hear is an external anchor while a voice that you remember can be

used as an internal anchor. Whistling or singing can help soothe your

nerves when you feel anxious or restless. You can recall the voice of your

mother humming a lullaby or comforting you and associate it with happy

moments in your life to help you relax.

3. Kinesthetic. An example of an internal anchor would be to imagine your

father’s handshake whenever you did something great. You can link this to

the feeling of achievement or success. Some examples of external anchors

would be to feel the fur of your dog as you hug him or running your hand

through your loved one’s hair. You can link these feelings of touch with

happy moments and memories.

Transderivational Search

Transderivational search or TDS is a term used when one tries to find the

meaning of ambiguous or incomplete statements. When a message is unclear, we

try to supply the missing information from our own knowledge and experience to

give it meaning. The state of confusion that is experienced while the search for

meaning is being carried out puts the person in a mild state of trance.

NLP practitioners use this to put their clients in a hypnotic state by

deliberately uttering ambiguous statements. Milton Ericson was a master at this

technique.

1. Leading statements. These statements introduce an uncertain scenario

that triggers your imagination to try and complete the whole picture. It

initiates a mood without a full explanation then leaves your brain to process

the whole idea and find meaning to it. Here are some examples.

a. “The varying shades of paint.” Hearing this, your mind will begin

exploring all the possible colors that paint can come in. The setup

and scope of paint and color has been created without fully showing

the exact shades, which will lead you to wonder which particular

shades are being referred to.

b. “What you said last night.” The vagueness will let the mind cover

everything that occurred within the parameters set by the statement.

It considers the words and the time frame then seeks internally all the

ideas that may be important and relevant to the discussion at hand.

One by one, the mind will eliminate unimportant ideas to try and

narrow down to the contextual meaning of the sentence.

c. “You forgot.” The aspect of wondering is still present as the mind

searches stored information and memory. You attempt to know the

exact object, event, place or person that may have been forgotten.

The use of these types of statements is very powerful for

manipulation of others.

2. Textual ambiguity. Ambiguity may stem from not understanding a

combination of words, not understanding the contextual meaning of terms

or not hearing the words properly.

“Has there been sack jumping down the penny lane?” Upon hearing

this ambiguous statement, your mind will begin to interpret it as a whole or

only by the terms that it can understand.

Chaining States

Chaining states together is an NLP technique, wherein your current

emotional state will be redefined into another one more conducive to learning and

success. If you have the present habit or feeling of doubt within you, there are

methods that will encourage you to change your mindset and attitude, thereby

giving you a whole new perception of the world around you. This method also

enhances your perspective toward yourself as a human being. You will be more

inclined to try new things and feel braver to face new challenges. It is a very

effective tool in achieving success. You can chain or move from one state to

another or more.

1. Introduce the present state. You should first be aware or have an idea of

your current emotional state so that you will have an easier time shifting into

the next. Knowing this may come from the words you’re saying, the

thoughts in your head or your particular feeling at the moment. This state is

your very own way of attempting to gather information. Here are some ideas

on how to find out your own present state.

a. Verbal. Asking, “What’s going to happen at the party?” puts you into

an emotional state of curiosity. This is highly useful in learning.

b. Mental. Thinking, ‘Would it be that bad if I don’t go?’ puts you into an

emotional state of wonder. This provides you with choices that can

lead or chain you to another state.

c. Behavioral. Whatever you feel about the decision you’re trying to

make specifically describes your current emotional state.

2. Introduce the next state and chain. After you have accurately identified

your current emotional state, you can use the very same techniques to

introduce the next state you wish to move into. Verbally, mentally or

behaviorally access another emotional state. Elicit or illustrate in your mind

the feeling associated with it and allow yourself to indulge in that feeling or

thought. From a state of curiosity you can then move on to a state of

awareness. Learning does not necessarily stop once you satisfy curiosity.

You can then bridge into a new emotional state that doesn’t attempt to

resolve anything. It can simply be a feeling of fulfillment within you as a

person.

3. Chain to the next state and depict. You can then transfer from one

emotional state to another depending on your personal needs. Knowing the

kind of state you need to be in at the moment will help you adapt to your

surroundings and relate to other people better. This, in turn, will guarantee

you success once you learn how to respond and bring forth the state

relative to the situation at hand. Depending on the current situation, you will

then lead yourself into a new realm of possibilities in accord with the state

you’re in.

There are several methods to effectively chain or lead you into a

state. What’s more important is that you have a particular outcome in mind.

This end result will determine the emotion, thought or action involved once

the state is achieved. The main goal of chaining states in NLP is to create a

more beneficial attitude and thought toward success.

Meta Model

John Grinder and Richard Bandler introduced and developed the meta

model of NLP to create a wider dimension of a person’s view of the world. It

involves questions that narrow down information and illustration so that you can

make your own limitless perspective on an object or event. The meta model makes

use of language but you may or may not be completely aware of everything that is

communicated. There are three processes involved in the semantics and grammar

usage of the meta model.

1. Deletion. You may have various thoughts in your head pertaining to a story

or circumstance but you don’t have to say everything to give your listener a

full view. Deleting terms or ideas can be done without disturbing the overall

thought of your story. However, some unspecified details leave the mind

wondering. Here are some examples of deletion.

a. Simple Deletion. Saying, “I am grieving.” creates the picture of

melancholy but leaves out exactly the person or event that is being

grieved for.

b. Comparative Deletion. Saying, “Last night was worse.” suggests

another unknown object or event of the same type, making a clear

comparison with an unclear subject.

c. Unspecified Referential Index. Saying, “He took it.” provides a

situation but does not indicate the person who did it and the object

that was taken.

d. Unspecified Verb. Saying, “He took it.” has a verb but still does not

provide the exact information as to how the taking was done or how

the event exactly happened.

e. Nominalization. Saying, “His love is undying.” includes a noun

which is a nominalization but cannot be generally labeled. Other

similar nouns are friendship, trust, joy, etc.

2. Generalizations. These statements can be arguable because they lack

definition and are closed-ended. Several questions requiring a rhetorical

response can be raised after the statement. The terms used are absolute,

exaggerated or very negative.

a. Universal Quantifiers. Saying, “He never showed me he cared.”

can be opposed because the term used is closed-ended and highly

unlikely. Other generalized terms are all, only, nothing, etc.

b. Modal Operators of Necessity or Possibility. Saying, “It’s

impossible at this time.” limits the situation entirely although there

may still be possibilities. Similar terms are must, have to, need to,

can’t, won’t, may not, etc.

3. Distortions. These statements are basically unclear and inaccurate. A lot

of assumptions are involved which is why your mind tends to create its own

scenario and results of the situation.

a. Cause-Effect. Saying, “If he looked at me, I’d die.” shows a cause

and effect relationship without a clear distinction of a particular

reason. Similar terms include because, due to, if, etc.

b. Presupposition. Saying, “When will you pay your debt?” indicates

the non-existence of payment without exactly having to say the full

words.

c. Mind Reading. Saying, “My father was happy with my spending.”

shows that you seem to feel or know the same thing as another

person.

d. Lost Performative. Saying, “This is the best way to cook fish.” gives

importance to a judgment with no distinct authority that has set it.

e. Complex Equivalence. Saying, “My dad sat with me without saying

a word which means that he is angry with me.” connects two

situations that provide one single thought or meaning. The

connection of the events includes terms like therefore, thereby,

meaning, etc.

Meta Programs

Meta programs in NLP are strategies which you follow through your own

representation or model that lead to an outcome. The programs help you make

decisions for different situations based on what you’ve learned in communication,

body language and behavior. Since you gain information and subjective

experience, meta programs will then enable you to act on these. The way you

respond to a situation with the use of past information and experience will be most

likely the same way you will respond to other situations in the future. Thus a pattern

or strategic approach will develop in you as an individual.

Meta programs have various benefits. The strategies or programs will help

you define language and behavior patterns that will enhance your abilities and

understanding of the world. In turn, you will be more equipped to handle different

situations, relate with other people and take advantage of opportunities. All these

lead directly to personal success. The pattern is not universal and will differ with

each individual. It does not merely incorporate or plant the pattern inside you but

will help you develop your very own way of thinking and acting specifically

designed to bring out your best traits and qualities. Here are some examples of

meta programs.

1. Self Reference vs. Other Reference. In this meta program, you base the

information you get and the attention you give only on your own or another

person’s beliefs and understanding. The choice you make will matter only to

you or the significant person your conscious mind is referring to. You should

clearly identify your own standards or correlate with another depending on

whose opinion affects you more.

2. Association vs. Dissociation. Association allows you to fully indulge in a

situation physically, mentally and emotionally. This is highly effective in

building relationships and establishing rapport. Dissociation is more

concerned with the demands at hand and will deviate from being too

emotionally attached to accomplish a specific task. It is effective in dealing

with critical situations. You must know that a balance must be maintained in

order to attend to a situation effectively and be sensitive enough to respond

accordingly. Too much association will make you too attached while too

much dissociation will make you apathetic.

3. Best Case vs. Worst Case Scenario. This is a matter of looking at a

situation in black and white. It can lead you to become either optimistic or

pessimistic. When making decisions, you have to learn how to balance what

is real from what is ideal. Some situations may require you to exert extra

effort with the possibility of success while others seem easier left undone.

The difficult part is others may not feel the same way as you and seeing

negative situations can either make you give up or spur you to do more. The

program and habitual patterns that you have developed will help you

compare more efficiently and make a better choice.

4. Toward vs. Away From. The main idea in this meta program is that people

move toward what they want and away from what they don’t want. The

common problem is that when people move away from what they don’t want,

they lose track of their true intentions and goals, and thus unconsciously

forget what they want. So they move away from one thing but no longer

move toward another due to losing sight of their goal. Some things in life will

require you to move toward a solution to achieve the benefits after

overcoming the problem. The attitudes involved in accomplishing the task

still largely involve perseverance and determination.

Semantic Primes and Density

Semantic primes are universal meanings attached to certain words or

language. A whole new meaning is related to terms which used to be considered

as simple or as they really were. The use of semantic primes is functional in

identifying cultural and linguistic deviations among commonly used terms. A

foundation has then been created allowing broad usage in language use,

understanding, translation and interracial communication.

The theory revolves around the idea that semantic primes exist in words or

other communication expressions in all languages. This existence is then valuable

in identifying and analyzing how other cultures and people relate with each other.

There is a proposed universal grammar even if the details may not be entirely

similar. Semantic primitives are then used as a foundation in producing meaning or

semantic density.

Semantic density is the broad definition highly associated with the primitive

term. Since there is already the presence of a universal prime, it is bound in a

number of radically similar terms. For example, using the term “before” i s

synonymously bound under the semantic primitive for time. When discussing time,

the semantic density will attempt to search the exact date or occasion of the

particular period mentioned across all language spectrums. The morphology and

syntax may not be entirely similar or understandable but they all denote the same

meaning. The combination of simple terms can provide a whole new meaning,

making the combination indivisible.

Here are the English exponents of the 61 Semantic Primitives. Nine

languages (Cree, Korean, Lao, Mbula, Malay, Mandarin, Polish, Spanish and

Yankunytjatjara) were used to test the presence of these primes in all languages.

Semantic Primitive Term

Substantives I, you, something, thing, somebody, body

Mental Predicates be, see, hear, think, know, want

Speech say, word

Actions, Movements and Events go, do, move

Existence and Possession there is, have

Life and Death live, die

Time long time, short time, before, after

Space where, here, there, inside, outside

Intensifier Very

Augmenter More

Quantifier one, two, some, many, much

Evaluator good, bad

Descriptor big, small, narrow, wide

Determiner this, other

Similarity Like

Taxonomy and Partonomy kind of, part of

Logical Concepts can, if, maybe, because

Chapter Five

APPLICATIONS AND TECHNIQUES OF NLP

Visual Squash

Visual squash is an NLP technique that aids in acknowledging each part to

reconstitute a whole. Each part is integrated to a higher level than what was

formerly set by the limits until a state of unity and entirety is achieved. The process

chunks up as each unconscious logical level is reached. Each part is identified and

defined according to its function and relative effect on other parts. Visual squash is

very effective in resolving the conflict between parts so that everything will be able

to work systematically to produce success.

The idea of visual squash is to recondition your former thought or feeling

into a more positive one. The old pattern is very likely to be negative or a hindrance

to your success, which is why you should learn how to decondition then recondition.

Decondition means to remove your old perspective while recondition means

replacing the old perspective with a new and beneficial one. You can easily

redirect negative thoughts and feelings into positive ones when you learn the

process of deconditioning and reconditioning.

1. Visualize the negative pattern. Visual squash literally means squashing

what you see in your mind. You first have to think of the negative thought

then put it into an animated scenario. For example, think that you’re not a

leader. Picture your friends not wanting to follow your simplest invitations.

Exaggerate to really emphasize the negative idea.

2. Visualize the replacement pattern. It is advisable that you picture the

exact opposite of the initial image you had in mind. Instead of thinking that

you’re not a leader, tell yourself that you’re a great leader. Again create a

visual scenario in your mind. Draw senators following your every command

and people loving your every order. Exaggerate the scenario as you please.

3. Chain the two states. Put your initial negative thought pattern at the start

and your final positive thought pattern at the end. Now, it is up to you to

provide the middle scenario that will link the two states together. Visualize

and create your very own story of how the first awkward scenario can lead

to the great ending. Express with your own imagination.

4. Decondition. Let go of the initial negative thought pattern. You may visually

squash it in your head, entirely removing all the details and dwelling only on

the final piece of positive thought. You can mentally picture a huge hand

pounding the whole scenario into dust.

5. Recondition. As you dwell on your new positive thought pattern, you’ll

realize that your new mindset and attitude have beneficial effects on you as

an individual. You’ll be more inclined to relate to, communicate with and

lead people. Even when you think of the former negative thought, your mind

will immediately link it to your reconditioned positive state.

Collapsing Anchors

Anchors can be positive, negative, or both. To maintain a positive outlook in

life you also have to learn how to collapse or break your negative anchors. Anchors

are created by linking to a state. The anchor or trigger automatically brings forth

the state of mind you wish to harness at the moment you’re trying to achieve

something. However, negative anchors also immediately put you into a state of

doubt or uncertainty if you have initially associated them with a negative

experience. You have to know how to collapse these anchors to remove the

association with its negative thought and feeling. Here’s how.

1. Identify the anchor. The anchor may be a feeling, thought, disability or

experience. There may be several but you have to narrow down the

negative anchors one at a time to successfully collapse them. Once you

have identified the anchor, hold on to it. Let’s assume that you have the

negative anchor of anger.

2. Choose the alternative. Think of a positive trigger to replace your initial

negative anchor. It is simpler to choose the exact opposite to completely

cover all aspects of the negative association. In this case, instead of feeling

anger, think of joy. Joy may be represented in several aspects like humor or

receiving love. Picture the alternative that best suits your emotional needs.

3. Link the alternative. Once you have selected the feeling you wish to have

instead, search for some information inside your mind that closely attaches

with the feeling. For example, when you chose joy, you can think of a happy

experience like going to the park with your mother when you were still a kid.

You can bring a more tangible resourceful state like bringing a picture of

your mom. Whenever you think of the good old days or look at the picture,

feelings of joy will automatically pour in.

4. Collapse the anchor. If you have an external anchor, it will be easier to

replace it with an external resourceful state. Simply let go of the object or

sensory trigger that draws out the negative association. Replace it with the

new external anchor that makes you foster the positive state. If the anchor is

internal like a traumatic memory, link it immediately with the positive

experience you have stored in your mind. Each time you think or feel that

the traumatic memory is returning, simply visualize the alternative internal

memory to collapse the negative one.

5. Application. What’s more important is that you be able to automatically

refer to the positive alternative and resourceful state that you have chosen.

The alternative must have more intense and stronger feelings to you

compared to the negative pattern so that you can completely relinquish the

associated anchors. Apply the technique in the real world to know and

gauge how much more practice and visualization you need.

6. Step Reframing. Not all behavior is perfect. That is, some of the things you

do may have good intentions but possess negative aspects or parts. Most

people do not understand that there is something bad even in the best

motives. There is positive intention in all behavior but the process of

achieving the positive state somehow undergoes imperfections which come

out negatively. The principle of positive intention means that the limitations

upon a certain standard need to be accepted in view of the entire situation.

You cannot blindly approach a situation without recognizing the underlying

factors and the other possible effects a choice may have on the

environment and other people.

1. Identify the behavior. Although the intention is good and well-planned,

in due time you will be able to acknowledge the underlying symptoms

associated with the behavior. The negative aspects of the thought,

feeling or action will arise and you have to accept that change is needed.

You have to be very specific in describing the behavior to know the

appropriate response.

2. Identify the part that triggers that behavior. Search your mind,

emotions and experiences for the aspect within yourself that causes

such behavior. It may be a mental image that flashes once in a while

causing you distress or distorting your emotions. Try to access the

trigger and clearly envision it in your mind so that you can have a vivid

picture of the whole situation and know why it causes such adverse

behavior.

3. Separate the positive intention from the bad effects of the behavior.

Create a full picture and define why the behavior is present and how it

came to exist. Think of the positive effects that the plan initially

establishes and the negative links to it. Maintain a positive attitude and

communication throughout the process. Learn the positive intention, the

positive effects and the overall desired positive outcomes of the

behavior. There are underlying factors that have positive intentions like

self-preservation, protection and integrity. All these try to protect you

from falling into a vulnerable state. However, the behavior associated

with it may not be as positive.

4. Find alternatives that have the same positive intention without

harboring the bad effects of the behavior. It may be an activity, a

form of communication or a thought that can help you avoid the bad

habit or behavior. You should have more than one alternative. Be

creative enough and learn about the positive effects that the alternate

choice has on your behavior and the end result.

5. Check if all parts of you accept the alternative. Think of the

alternatives and the part that seems to be suffering from the original bad

behavior. Ask for signs if the part agrees to the alternative or if you have

to go back and find new ones for approval.

6. Overall approval. If the part accepts the alternative, you should also

consider the approval of other existing aspects and parts of yourself. A

new alternative may be acceptable for one part but be resisted by

another. Unity and holistic approval are vital for overall impact and

growth.

Change Personal History

What Is It?

Some events and experiences you had in the past may be compelling you

to make decisions that are not truly beneficial for you in the future. You may have

lacked information or had hurt feelings, which created a faulty foundation in your

overall behavior and way of thinking as a human being. In NLP, you can relearn

and change your personal history so that your frame of mind is more inclined to

adaptation and success. Most of the attitudes and thoughts you have now may

have been created long before you mastered your state of consciousness. You

may be merely adapting the characteristics or traits of someone close to you in the

past, which limits your potential now.

Change Personal History or CPH is an effective NLP change technique that

allows you to draw out the negative influences that have haunted you in the past.

By identifying these impacts, you can then face old adversaries and situations with

renewed vigor and hope to succeed in the end. When you talk about the past, you

base information from memory in your unconscious mind. When you talk about the

present, you only draw information from what you see, hear, smell, taste or touch.

These are called past and present experiences.

The drawback from experience is that most people feel that they cannot

change what has been done. Memories from past experiences haunt them until the

present while present experiences continue to be wrongly interpreted, as they only

relive the same traumatic situation over and over. What you should know is that by

changing your personal history, you can relive the same situation without having to

have the same unfavorable results. This time you can react differently.

How Does It Work?

1. Recall the experience. Think of the event that caused you distress or

trauma. You may have difficulty picturing it in your mind since most bad

experiences are pushed into the subconscious mind. It may help to get a

resource or anchor that helps you create a vivid image.

2. Change the meaning. It is impossible to change what happened exactly,

but you can definitely change your response and the meaning you give to

the whole experience. What may be causing you pain is not the

environment or the people but your feelings at the time. Recall how you

reacted during the situation then substitute your old feelings with positive

ones.

3. Hold on to the new meaning. If you have an anchor that lets you relive the

experience, find a new anchor that possesses the positive meaning you

want to give to the event. You should now hold on to this anchor or the

mental image you have recreated in your mind. Let your mind automatically

access these triggers to eliminate all false beliefs and attitudes associated

with the old one. It may help if you verbalize the new response or meaning

of the situation. Repeat the words to yourself to completely separate the two

meanings and bring forth the new positive one.

4. Let go of the old meaning. Throw away all triggers that set emotional pain

and remorse. Erase mental pictures that remind you of your bad character.

Cherish the past, indulge in the present and prepare for the future. Think of

a brighter future and event that will completely change how you and other

people view you as a human being.

Belief Change

A belief is your own understanding about the world. You may believe

something that doesn’t truly exist or vice-versa. Your beliefs help you in

responding to a certain situation. These are the very principles that make you

decide. Your beliefs are formed from experiences, observations and

generalizations. Your behavior is dictated by your beliefs, and this can be either

beneficial or detrimental. In order to eliminate bad behavior triggered by unhelpful

generalizations, you have to learn how to change your beliefs. Here’s how.

1. Visual Technique 1. Draw a picture in your mind of your belief and another

picture which is the exact opposite of your belief. Clearly visualize and

describe the two images and put them in separate frames. All of these are in

your imagination. Disturb the picture of your belief by intensifying the exact

opposite picture and destroying the scene altogether. Think of the new

belief you want to incorporate and picture it. Put the new belief in the very

same spot where your old belief used to be.

2. Visual Technique 2. Draw a picture in your mind of your present negative

belief and another picture of a positive belief. Clearly visualize and describe

the two images and put them in separate frames. Think of the picture with

your negative belief then calibrate. Take one submodality away at a time if

the effect is negative until you have a new belief. You should be able to go

through all the submodalities.

3. Future Pacing. Picture yourself in the future where you can apply your new

belief. Evaluate the positive and negative effects of the belief on your

behavior. You should be able to identify and install anchors to access the

mood you want to be in under different circumstances.

4. Time Distortion. Picture yourself in different time frames in the future.

Forward yourself five, ten, fifteen, twenty, twenty five and fifty years into the

future, then look back. Reflect on the changes that your new belief has

made during these years. Evaluate the effects and whether you feel that the

changes have been beneficial. From this, you can decide whether or not

you wish to go ahead and change your belief.

5. Time Line. Put yourself in the past, present, future, meta-position in the

past and meta-position in the future. Envision the effects of your new belief

in these five states. In the meta-positions, you have to view the situation

from a third-person point of view to see its relative effects.

Here are the six ground anchors of the belief change cycle.

1. Wanting a new belief

2. Openness to the new belief

3. Existing belief

4. Doubting the existing belief

5. Unbelieving the belief

6. Deep trust in the new belief

V/K Dissociation

V/K dissociation is a very effective method that can cure panic attacks,

trauma and phobias. V/K stands for visual-kinesthetic which incorporates the sight

and touch sensations. The method is also called the fast phobia cure because it

significantly removes all symptoms of trauma and fear. If you are experiencing

stress or phobias, V/K dissociation will help you retell and re-experience the event

to help you respond differently compared to the original situation. Instead of having

the same traumatic reaction, you can alter the stress response pattern thus

eliminating all anxiety and panic.

V/K dissociation offers several benefits.

1. It’s fast. After one session lasting approximately one hour, you can already

experience reduction in trauma, anxiety or fear.

2. It’s effective. Over seventy percent of your symptoms are significantly

reduced.

3. It’s comfortable. You don’t have to share events in full detail or

re-experience the traumatizing events. The method is very relaxing using

guided imagery or hypnosis.

4. It’s easy. You can achieve results immediately and even incorporate the

techniques yourself.

5. It’s simple. The techniques are direct with no need for other devices.

Repeated sessions are optional as the methods applied are basically done

in the same efficient manner.

Here is how V/K dissociation is done step by step.

1. Phobia. Calibrate the patient to present a phobic response. Initially, the

phobia should be triggered to create the experience and provide a mental

image of the fear.

2. Visual submodality. Let the patient picture himself in a visual submodality

(black and white, animated or cartoon, etc.) just before the phobic response.

The point in this is that a visual submodality is required in the brain to trigger

a phobic response. Usually, the imagination is initially primed before the

phobic response is presented so if the priming is reduced to a manageable

level, the response will be either mild or nonexistent.

3. Watch. Give the patient two choices. He can watch himself in black and

white or in full color. By giving your patient the choice, he can effectively

perceive an initial phobic situation in a different light. Depending on the

visual submodality that you selected in step two, you can identify which one

triggers the phobic response, thus let the patient overcome it. Do the same

with the kinesthetic submodality.

4. Reverse. When you have identified the submodalities, forward to the end of

the experience which your patient has imagined. Let the full experience run

backwards adding the trigger submodalities. In this way, your patient will

have overcome his phobias. The point is that you can’t really get scared of

something which already occurred, you have overcome or you know will

happen.

Calibration

Calibration is a communication skill which uses intuition. Without other

people having to tell you, you develop a feeling of their intentions, beliefs and

understanding. Knowing this will enable you to react appropriately to the situation.

It is highly effective when relating with other people and deciding on what to do

during a critical moment.

For example, if a friend of yours is having a bad day, you don’t have to

directly hear from him his frustrated feelings. Through the words he says, his

manner of speaking, his body language, his facial expression and his manner of

interacting with you, he will show his frustration. It only means that unconsciously,

you are still reacting to your surroundings. You are involved in everything that

happens around you which makes you human in the process.

There are goals to be met when engaging in conversation. You are either

receiving information or influencing another to develop an understanding of your

thoughts and emotions. Whatever you say or do affects those around you and you

are also greatly affected by other people. You are an integral part of a definitive

whole which is the world. Whether you know it or not, you are observing everything

that goes on around you and reacting in your own creative way to contribute to the

environment. You will certainly receive the same response from the

communication you’re involved in.

Calibration is also synonymous with measurement. You are simply

measuring another person’s behavior and thoughts. You have to develop some

form of mind-reading so that you can effectively communicate with the person.

Without proper calibration, it is almost impossible to have quality communication.

There has to be some form of understanding and compatibility between the

persons involved and only by calibrating can you achieve this.

You should calibrate a person’s state of mind in different time frames. This

means that calibration can effectively tell how a person feels or what a person

thinks at the time but it doesn’t necessarily mean that’s how the person feels or

thinks constantly. Behavior and state of mind are ever-changing and you should

learn how to adapt and calibrate accordingly to garner a positive response. If you

don’t calibrate well, you will only be assuming and assumptions have the possibility

of being wrong.

You can develop your visual calibrating skills by observing facial

expressions, body language and lips. Watch how emotions are triggered by

language and nonverbal cues. Be good with your eyes and try to see things without

using sound. Using your eyes in acquiring objective data will intensify the sense of

sight and will make you a much more effective intuitive communicator. Remember

that the most felt and meant expressions are those which are unspoken. You have

to rely on what you see rather than on what you hear to be very effective in

communication. This will help you seize opportunities and give people the

impression that you are more sensitive than the average person.

Chapter Six

DOES NLP WORK, AND HOW?

Does NLP Work?

Yes. NLP has been proven effective in a variety of fields from business to

sports to culture understanding. It has been used widely by successful individuals

who have learned to come out of their shell. Personal change and development

are highly linked with your knowledge and perception of yourself, others and the

world. You can have one session of NLP and acquire years of success. NLP works

and will continue to work with its constant innovations.

You can effectively recreate your memories, eliminate negative feelings and

improve your way of communicating with NLP. Your senses are enhanced in a way

that your brain is empowering all the things you do, the thoughts in your mind and

your personal feelings. You can perform NLP on your own although it is

recommended that you seek the help of an expert in the beginning or do it along

with other therapies to have therapeutic effects in the long term.

NLP works fast, effectively and in the long term. You will be amazed as to

how NLP can turn your life around by simply harnessing and bringing out the good

qualities that are already inside of you. You only need to realize your potential to

make the most out of yourself and your experiences. With NLP, you’ll find yourself

a stronger individual who knows how to deal with the world with great pride and

influence.

How Does NLP Work?

NLP works by assimilating your subjective experiences. Since the time you

started remembering events in your life, your brain has been continuously storing

information. This information then becomes memories and recalled experiences

that are transformed into your own personal beliefs and perception of the world.

Depending on how you reacted to the past experience, your beliefs and perception

will either be positive or negative. The positive ones can stay as long as you want

to reinforce your way of knowing yourself and responding to others. However, the

negative ones also affect your behavior and thoughts and you have to devise a

way to get rid of them.

NLP helps you achieve this by directly changing your false or negative

understanding based on past experiences. By linking your senses and brain, you

can effectively let go of traumatic experiences, hard feelings and vague thoughts

that have been influencing your actions for so long. The hindrances to your

personal development will be eliminated, paving the way to success.

The entire process relies heavily on you. You have to be able to identify

your own strengths and weaknesses and know the areas that cause you to

experience pain or fear. Negative behaviors are often denied, which is why you

have to be mentally and emotionally prepared to draw them out. NLP helps you

unravel unconscious beliefs and strengthen your positive views in life and

eliminate the negative ones that block growth.

Using NLP on Yourself

You can apply NLP on your own self. Since you’re aiming for personal

growth and success, there might be more meaning if you do the programming by

yourself. You will be more sensitive to the needs of your senses, you can listen

more to the changes that your mind wants you to undergo and you don’t have to go

through much to recall memory or access past experiences.

Several methods like trance, self-hypnosis, meditation, etc. are used to

create a relaxed mental state where you can view yourself from a different point of

view. Your subjective experience will then be transformed into a more objective

scenario so you can accurately assess which points you need to fix and replace.

Here are some quick tips on using NLP on yourself.

1. Choose a problem. You have to clearly define which problem you want to

improve. Let’s say you wish to have more discipline. Specify discipline in

terms of the time you wake up, sticking to your diet, etc. so that you will have

a vivid scenario.

2. Visualize. Draw pictures in your mind defining the problem you chose.

Allow your mind to retrieve information if ever you did something relevant to

the problem. You can review the scene all over again from different points of

view. Be creative and include the necessary details that best describe the

problem.

3. Review. When you have successfully drawn the picture, stick to that

thought whenever you want. Repeat the scenario over and over at one point

and another to make sure that you recognize all the details. When you do

something that is close to the scenario, review the thought and compare it

with the actual situation.

4. Relive. Tell yourself that you have successfully done in reality what you

were assimilating in your mind. Encourage yourself that you can do it all

over again just like reviewing the picture over and over. Do the exercise

daily for at least two weeks. In due time, you will realize the factors wherein

your mind learns and performs better.

Here are some benefits of using NLP on yourself.

1. Change. You can renew or replace old beliefs and behaviors that have

negative effects on your overall character. This way you can install new

ones that will make you a stronger individual.

2. Improve. You will realize your potential, strengthen weak areas and

improve other aspects of your life. You will be able to see the world in a new

light, thus boosting your confidence and performance.

3. Relate. When you see yourself from a new point of view, you become more

objective when relating to your environment and the people around you.

You become a better communicator.

4. Control. You get to know yourself better and be aware of your current

emotional and mental states. You will have control in accessing both

conscious and subconscious states according to the demands of the

present situation.

Using NLP in Business

NLP has been proven as highly effective in many, if not all aspects of

business. Since NLP improves the way you understand yourself, your environment

and those around you, it will definitely have an impact in the fast-paced and often

ruthless workplace. You will develop the right skills, attitudes and mindset that aim

for nothing less than competence and productivity. You will also be able to relate to

and do business with other individuals the best way you can, making the right

decisions and sound judgment.

Nothing is permanent in the marketplace which is why you constantly have

to adjust and prepare yourself to change. With the techniques and methods which

NLP is known for, you will be able to solve a variety of business predicaments

ranging from predicting simple revenues to managing time-bound assets.

Business and management go hand-in-hand so by knowing yourself first, you also

learn your business. Just as you operate and respond emotionally based on your

experience and beliefs, you will automatically handle business the same way you

programmed your brain.

Here are some uses of NLP in business.

1. Accountants. You will be efficient in figures, calculating assets and potential

losses and managing overall budget and overhead.

2. Customer Service. By relating to other people well, you are more sensitive

in providing for their needs. Customer satisfaction is your utmost concern

for repeat transactions.

3. Directors. Your leadership and management skills will be enhanced.

Knowing your behavior also gives you a new view of yourself so that you

won’t seem manipulative and self-centered.

4. Managers. You take control of the situation, your personnel and the product

or service. You make sure that you stay ahead of the market through

innovation and reputation.

5. Engineers. Creativity is one of your best assets and you constantly aim for

development, growth and originality. You can create tangible products or

ideas with your imagination.

Here are some benefits of NLP in business.

1. Dynamic Teams. Since you care about your colleagues and subordinates,

you can create a united atmosphere focusing on productivity and

performance. Each member can harness leadership without having to

collide with other members. Every person possesses traits and skills that

benefit the entire business. No man becomes a liability in the process.

2. Customer Satisfaction. Reputation, ability to deliver and trust are the

foundation of good business transactions. When you understand the needs

of your customers, you can effectively cater to their demands; thus, they will

only look to you for future endeavors and investments.

3. Adaptive to Change. If each person in the business knows his potential and

strengths, he will be more inclined to develop. Change is inevitable in

business but what’s more important is that you are always prepared for new

challenges.

4. Cooperation. There is respect from the top to the bottom levels of the

business. Each member is responsible for the response of the next. This

way, there are fewer feuds and personal conflicts.

5. Model. Since models serve as the basis of behavior and ways of thinking,

everyone in the business will possess good traits in and out of the

workplace.

SUMMARY

In summary, NLP is a process that aims for personal development. It is a

system that makes use of your subjective experiences, beliefs, perceptions and

ways of communication. Since you have been creating your own outlook on

yourself and the world, there still are some principles that need to be changed in

order to ensure your positive progress. Some of your beliefs may seem right in

your own understanding but are truly hindrances to success. Changing your false

perception and shifting it into a more positive view will improve your behavior and

way of responding to other people.

NLP uses a variety of approaches and techniques that allow you to see

yourself in a different way. Usually, NLP makes use of your mind as a canvass for

your own “painting” or personal understanding. You can place old and negative

ones on it to be erased while allowing yourself to picture new and more

encouraging thoughts and emotions. Time visualization is also a valuable tool in

NLP as you picture yourself in the future with your new behavior and observing

how it positively or adversely affects your life.

Through modeling and creating your very own representations to follow,

you will be able to boost good behavior and thoughts while reducing or completely

eliminating bad ones. Once you have acquired the skills and techniques to

effectively become a better and more aware individual, you will be able to influence

others in the same way, thus making your environment conducive to further growth

and development.

NLP FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

1. Why was the system named Neuro-linguistic Programming?

The term “neuro” refers to the brain, which controls behavior and actions

and stores memory and experiences. “Linguistic” comes from language, so

“neuro-linguistic” basically is how language affects the brain. Words, non-verbal

cues and symbols can trigger your own response to the world. This mechanism is

analogous to a computer program, hence the name “Neuro-linguistic

Programming”. The founders of the system were also proficient in computer

programming and linguistics.

2. Why use NLP?

There are no universal guidelines to follow when understanding your

experience. Your mind has stored both negative and positive memories, which

provoke various behaviors in response to all kinds of experiences. The negative

memories adversely affect your perception, which is why you have to bring them to

awareness to be transformed. NLP uses objectivity and subjectivity, which means

it helps you determine the best way to act and think.

3. Can NLP make me more creative?

Yes. You have the freedom to put yourself in any situation you wish to help

you draw out your hidden characteristics on the subconscious level. You can

include the strategies and modify yourself to become a stronger individual. NLP

basically is a creative tool that lets you explore everything inside of you. Since

you’re using your mind, the possibilities are endless.

4. How long does it take before you notice the effects of NLP?

The effects of NLP can be noticed as immediately as after one session. It

really depends on the issues at hand, your cooperation and your determination to

recover. You have to be able to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself so that

sessions will be more meaningful. There is no pre-ordained timetable that expects

you to achieve a certain level at some point in time, because all perceptions and

issues are different. You may have the same problem as another individual but

with a different subjective view. These factors affect the effects and length of

treatment.

5. Is NLP only for certain individuals?

No. NLP has been used for several years by all kinds of people. It has been

used to restore relationships, improve work performance, reduce language

barriers and boost self-confidence. The applications of NLP have been increasing

in number throughout the years. Business owners use it to guarantee productivity

and competence. Teachers use NLP to harness their students’ potential and apply

the best learning methods. Parents incorporate it in the home to better understand

the needs of each member.

6. How can NLP make me a good leader?

The strategies and models of NLP have everything you need to be an

effective leader. As a leader, you have to be able to understand the language of

your subordinates. You can achieve this by incorporating the methods that NLP is

known for. Calibrate the needs and capabilities of your members, be creative,

initiate useful activities, maintain rapport with good communication skills and be

calm in critical situations by fostering a positive attitude.

7. How can you increase your knowledge of NLP?

NLP is continuously growing and developing. You can learn more about the

basic processes and keep updated on the trends by various means. Read books

on NLP; there are several good ones focusing on particular areas such as

education, relationship help and personal development. The Internet is also rich

with information and updates. You can find an NLP Practitioner or Trainer to

experience the system first-hand. There are also seminars and training sessions if

you want to be fully involved or become a professional.

8. What are the NLP Practitioner standards?

A minimum of 160 hours is the time standard for NLP Practitioners. It is also

strictly advised that when incorporating NLP, you should be aware of the process

since NLP is principally concerned with process. Be careful about methods and

persons that say they practice NLP but highly focus on content.

9. Can NLP and hypnosis work together?

Yes. NLP and hypnosis together provide a definite behavioral change by

creating a mental state conducive to creating good traits while removing bad ones.

The two modalities interact and work well with each other. NLP clears the mind,

which makes hypnosis more effective.

10. If a bad behavior is removed in NLP, is it permanent?

No. Everything you store in your mind is still based on subjective experience,

which is how you responded to the situation. If a similar experience happens again,

you can either store it again in a way that triggers bad behavior or react in a more

positive manner.

NLP TRENDS

1. NLP and bodybuilding

Recently, bodybuilders and other gym enthusiasts have been turning to

NLP after discovering that mental and sensory sensitivity enhanced their physical

performance. Since exercising is a form of relaxing and relieving stress, adding

NLP has particularly helped in removing chronic and recurrent mental stressors.

Through visualization, you can picture yourself in the best shape of your life.

Working out regularly conditions your mind and body and brings you one step

closer to realizing your strength and fitness goals. A common problem

encountered by most individuals going to the gym is consistency. They either get

too lazy to work out or think that they’re not making very much progress, which

makes them abandon their diets and abruptly cease to exercise. NLP keeps you

on track by allowing you to mentally see your development.

2. NLP stops addictions

Since NLP is known to weed out bad behaviors and change them, it has

also been utilized to stop chronic bad habits like smoking, gambling and excessive

alcohol intake. NLP can be incorporated into any rehabilitation program since the

mind plays a huge role in addiction development. People with addictions will be

able to see themselves in a whole new perspective, realizing the consequences of

their habits. With the use of time lines, they can put themselves in the future with

the same old bad habit which significantly puts their health at risk or with a healthy

new one which helps them live life to the fullest. They also need to accept the

addiction so they can participate fully in the mental process.

3. Gain recognition with NLP

NLP boosts your communication skills to a whole new level. It helps you find

the appropriate response to critical situations, personal struggles and the way you

negotiate with colleagues and friends. You will never again allow yourself to settle

for mediocrity, because by making choices in your mind, you can widen the options

in your life too. Mind-reading or calibration is an effective technique that allows you

to recognize certain signals which may mean more than what your boss or mother

is actually telling you. You can learn the right approach and how to modify your

response on different occasions. This way you can get the promotion by

understanding nonverbal language. By doing this you effectively relay the

message that you’re assertive and know what you want inside and outside the

office.

4. Make money with NLP

A lot of people pay hard-earned money for entertainment and relaxation.

Once you learn the skill of practicing NLP on yourself, you can effectively

communicate with other people and help them draw out the negative behaviors

that have been troubling them for so long. It does not mean that you should

become an unlicensed NLP practitioner. You can create blogs, a website, a

telephone service or one-on-one sessions wherein you can interact and talk to the

person in need. It’s up to you how you charge them for your time. Be creative and

resourceful, since you’re offering a service. It may be helpful to gauge your ability

to assimilate mental situations first with your family and friends before you interact

with unknown clients.

CONCLUSION

NLP is all about change. You have a problem that blocks your path to

success which is why you’re considering NLP to help you remove it. The problem

has its roots in the way you formerly reacted to a bad situation, causing a negative

behavior to develop. Your goal is to eradicate the bad behavior that is stressing

you and change the way you respond to the world. When you change your bad

behavior, it is very likely that you will also change your response to a positive one.

NLP is a system but its effects depend on the way you embrace the

situation or face your old problems. It does not merely tell you what to do to change

the behavior but you have to re-experience and relive some situations to recreate

your emotions and frame of mind. Once you have achieved the right state that

helps you recognize your weak points, you will be able to open up to the possibility

of change and amplify your strengths as well.

NLP does not necessarily require you to follow its methods and models.

You also have to learn how to make your own representation of yourself, other

people and the world. Upon learning this, you can maximize your potential as you

acquire better communication skills, become more sensitive to others, improve

your self-image, establish meaningful relationships and enhance your

determination and willingness to succeed in all aspects of life.

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